“Don’t plan a movie/theater date for the first few dates. Interaction is key to getting to know each other.”
“Repeat after me: I only invest my energy into people who invest in me. I only date people who intentionally want to get to know me. I do not chase people and try to convince them to like me.”
“When you’re constantly taking care of the emotions of others, you avoid having to face your own.”
“There is no such thing as failure in love. Relationships end, but they don’t fail. Love is only a failure when you don’t learn and you don’t try.”
“A wolf in sheep s clothing really does exist. There are people that will charm you. Trust with boundaries, determine what you will do if someone does not honor your boundary.”
“On social media facebombing is common – this means constant attention. Beware if your boyfriend or girlfriend stalks you. That is not a healthy pattern and is abuse. Be strong and walk away, do not take abuse. It never gets better.”
“Whatever you ve been doing with the girls or women your age won t cut it.”
“It may seem easier to have someone sweep in and take control. Maybe you need to be rescued and here comes the prince on a horse to save the day. If someone starts out controlling this is a person with control issues. You have to take care of yourself. Never let someone control you.”
“f you shift your perspective and stop expecting your relationship is supposed to MAKE you happy, you stop giving your power to someone else. You ll stop feeling entitled that it s someone s responsibility to make you feel good”
“Waiting might be hard, Waiting might be tough, But when a man meets a woman he loves, waiting becomes merely an exercise - of self-discipline, patience, respect and devotion for building an all-round intimacy, one that exists beyond the physical.”
“Our greatest lesson in this lifetime is to practice opening our hearts, even when it hurts. Especially when it hurts.”
“But that s the funny thing about love. Sometimes love can be deceiving. And sometimes, in the worst cases, love isn t love at all.”
“After all, the only thing harder than allowing yourself to care is pretending that you don t.”
“Online dating sites are nothing more than a tool for meeting new people. Much like a fork is a tool for eating. You can use it to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge chocolate cake. However, no obese person would ever blame their fork for their weight gain! And yet, people who have bad dating experiences with those they met online will blame the whole online dating industry.”
“Whenever you say, “There aren’t any quality people online,” you should keep in mind; other people are saying the exact same thing, despite the fact you have an online profile!”
“Selfishness in the dominant dating culture most clearly manifests itself in the attitude that human relationships, and by implication people themselves, are disposable.”
“I do not want to fall in love. I want to stand in love.”