“As Aldous Huxley says in his book The Doors of Perception, when you learn a language, you are an inheritor of the wisdom of the people who have gone before you. You are also a victim in this sense: of that infinite set of experiences you could have had, certain ones are given names, labeled with words, and thereby are emphasized and attract your attention. Equally valid—possibly even more dramatic and useful—experiences at the sensory level which are unlabeled, typically don t intrude into your consciousness.”
“If I use any words that don t have direct sensory referents, the only way you can understand those—unless you have some program to demand more sensory-based descriptions—is for you to find the counterpart in your past experience.”
“There s an illusion that people understand each other when they can repeat the same words. But since those words internally access different experiences— which they must—then there s always going to be a difference in meaning.”
“Staying with statements that are still assertive, but placed in the subjective format can help in debate, conversations and communication. It can open as many doors for authority, while applying humility and honor for another persons views. ”
“I truly admire the British for their subtle sarcasm. A good rule when using sarcasm is, it is best to put a little English on it.”
“If you go to your team and you are constantly bashing the “higher ups” or the “corporate” entity, it destroys your own credibility and harms your ability to effectively lead your team. Think about it like this: if the “higher ups” are so bad, then why are you (the competent director, manager, or leader) still be working for them?”
“So what do we talk about. We talk about the movies which of course is what everyone talks about, although again, he likes movies in which things happen and I like those in which things don’t. Who wants anything to happen and I think this more and more; there is too much happening all over anyhow and what we need to do is slow things down.”
“Architects are deluding themselves if they believe that they are addressing submissive audiences, eager to communicate; that their public wants by all means to understand (even to decipher, if necessary) the meaning of architecture as seen by the designer. […] What people want to see is their own meanings in the environment – with their own system of values, from their own frames of reference, shaped by the expressive systems that they share with their community but not necessarily with the designer. And this is exactly what they do, whether designers like it or not.”
“I ve always found one has to make time for words. If you don t have words, then people tend to see through to the really important things.”
“Use communication to own your worth and show others theirs, to repair broken bridges and show you care.”
“Learning to accept and move through healthy conflict is an essential component of keeping passion alive long-term in partnerships.”
“Too much and too little communication is killing our relationships.”
“A just law is crafted with thoughtful communication and factual debate, a corrupt one is forged to limit such things.”
“To be inexplicably haunted by or suddenly confronted with or obscurely convinced of meaningfulness, where no apparatus for its communication is visible, is an experience both remarkable and important…”
“When we talk about a person being a problem, rather than directly to the person, we add to the underground anxiety and make it harder for the talked-about person to behave with confidence and competence.”
“Ancient people expressed their ideas through dialogues. Medieval people expressed their ideas through disputations. Modern people expressed their ideas through manifestos. Contemporary people express their ideas through temper tantrums.”
“The impact of art is not in relation with the difficulty of craft but with the clarity and veracity of the underlying thought.”