“Every now and then, two men kill each other over a woman who neither loves nor likes either of them.”
“Some men’s type is women who have a vagina.”
“Some women are so cruel that they do not choose to at least not play hard to get, when they are being pursued by men who they know they will intentionally infect with HIV.”
“The last time I was single the men I was looking at were in their thirties and I still had that youthful image fixed in my head. It was depressing at first, choosing from a pool that s not regarded as desirable or vital in your society. [...] I managed to re-educate myself eventually. Now I m only attracted to people my age. A young face looks like a blank page to me.”
“In some cases, it is not the person that has changed, but their decision not to be themselves.”
“It is even more painful to have your heart broken by someone who you know does not deserve you.”
“So dating is a great opportunity to hear someone else’s stories. Listen to them actively and empathetically—and even share some of your own when it’s appropriate—but don’t kill the conversation with domination. Listening is a great way to find out if there’s something worth pursuing in that person sitting across from you.”
“On the spiritual path, the purpose of my relationship is to wake up and get to know ourselves and our lover, thoroughly, without judgment or pride. On the spiritual path, we enter into a shared union where we cherish and give to each other, expanding our ability to love unconditionally. We would also accept that the process an be awkward, unpredictable, challenging, and surprising.”
“The more we commit to knowing and accepting ourselves, the more we are able to surrender to loving another person because we have nothing to hide and nothing to feel ashamed of. Our spiritual commitment to truth and integrity creates a safe harbor within us- a mooring, a home to return to when the journey gets rough, This is immensely important in the dating process because new love can resurrect our most primitive feelings of fear, dependency, and emptiness. If we know how to soothe our pain and relax into or emptiness, we won t be afraid to be open and honest, regardless of the outcome.”
“Love brings up anything that is hiding.”
“You can be right and still lose the fight.”
“Usually, a breakup is caused by, or causes, the revelation of one of the parties’ true colours.”
“M. Foss had advised me once to treat dating like gardening instead. Plant the most promising seeds. Water them all. Taste what each has to offer. And when you find one that produces fruit you could eat every single day, give a little more love to it and start pruning the rest... But the important thing to remember is that it s your garden. Nothing good can grow if you don t nourish your own soil. And only you can decide when to stop feeding dead things.”
“Some people would fall in or out of love with you if you lose or gain a few kilos.”
“Changed behavior is the only apology, otherwise, it s just manipulation.”
“People like to feel good about themselves. Dating is the perfect opportunity to do that for someone else. Make them feel like they’re attractive and interesting. Focus on your date rather than worrying about what he or she is thinking of you.”
“First Date Small Talk •It’s great to see you again. I’m so glad you were able to ______with me tonight. •So tell me a little bit about yourself: who was your best friend growing up, how do you celebrate your favorite holiday, what do you eat for lunch? •Did you go away to college? •Where does your family live? •I have five brothers and six sisters. How about you, do you have any siblings? •What brought you to this city? •Do you have any pets? Hobbies? Favorite activities during this season of the year?”