“The wonderful, beautiful thing that happens when you rid yourself of the things that don’t see your worth? You make space in your life for all the glorious things you deserve.”
“Love shouldn’t require Windex to be clear. It either is or it isn’t.”
“Dating is probably the most fraught human interaction there is. You re sizing people up to see if they re worth your time and attention, and they re doing the same to you. It s meritocracy applied to personal life, but there s no accountability. We submit ourselves to these intimate inspections and simultaneously inflict them on others and try to keep our psyches intact - to keep from becoming cold and callous - and we hope that at the end of it we wind up happier than our grandparents, who didn t spend this vast period of their lives, these prime years, so thoroughly alone, coldly and explicitly anatomized again and again.”
“Not everything in life has to be about finding “The One.” Sometimes a girl just wants to have fun.”
“Sit your affections, your heart and your precious time out on the doorstep without so much as making him ring the doorbell first, and he’ll treat you like a doormat. Make him work a little to get next to you, and he won’t stop til you’re his.”
“A humanitarian seldom makes a good lover. For a lover’s world revolves around their lover, while a humanitarian’s world revolves around the world.”
“When a dreamer loses his lover, his dream profits. (Unless, of course, the lover was the dreamer s dream.)”
“[…] I have a date this afternoon. Oh, Lord. Jake closed his eyes. Who are you going to destroy now? I beg your pardon? The hotel would appreciate it if you d just throw back the men you don t like without maiming them. I haven t maimed anyone. You almost drowned Lance, you scared Peter into heart palpitations, you stabbed Donald with a fork, and you hit Brad over the head with a bottle. Jake shook his head. And they still ask you out.”
“First we must understand that all of the world s deceptions flow from the belief that love is primarily for the fulfillment and comfort of the self. The world poisons love by focusing first and foremost on meeting one s own needs. Christ taught that love is not for the fulfillment of the self but for the Glory of God and the food of others. True love is selfless. It gives; it sacrifices; it dies to its own needs.”
“Every relationship for a Christian is an opportunity to love another person like God has loved us.”
“Having a girlfriend was no longer my greatest need. Knowing and obeying Him was . I wanted to please Him in my relationships even if it meant looking radical and foolish to other people - even if it meant kissing dating goodbye.”
“We want to stay on the straight and narrow path and serve God, yet we continue a practice that often pulls us in the wrong direction.”
“Be the man she can depend on, not the man that constantly lets her down.”
“If everyone could feel as I felt at that moment, dressed in my preppy sweater and McGregor coat and about to set out on a little journey with my Bambi-eyed girlfriend on Christmas Eve, all conflicts in the world would vanish. Mellow smiles would rule the earth.”
“Every person is attractive to somebody. You are. I am. Jim Bob over there is, too. Every person is probably ugly to somebody, too. You are. I am. Jim Bob over there is, too. Don’t take it personally. And, we all need to do ourselves a favor. We need to believe people when they tell us we’re beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or hunkalicious, especially when that someone is somebody that we think is beautiful, handsome, sexy, attractive, hot, or babealicious. Because you know what? They probably really think so. They probably aren’t lying. They probably don’t give a damn that you don’t look like Pamela Anderson.”
“...for Christians typical dating can often be a swerver - an approach to relationships that wants to go in a different direction than the one God has for us.”
“Lesson learned: If a guy tells you you’re his second choice, don’t make him your first.”