“I still wonder what made him leave. Were they my demons or his own?”
“There were many tears, many unsure times, many troubled moments. The fun memories were only a few, but even so, those memories will shine bright like stardust, and continue to shine on in my heart.”
“Because Dad told you he d be here forever. Because I thought forever was like Mars -- far away.”
“Silence then, and the scent of apple trees, and the nightmare sense of grief that comes when a man wakes again to feel a loss he has forgotten in sleep.”
“Only marriage combines all three forms of companionship - spouse is family, best friend, and permanent companion. This is why it is widely held that while the death of a child is the most painful loss, the death of a spouse is the most disorienting one.”
“Because she is in God s hands. But if so, she was in God s hands all the time, and I have seen what they did to her here. Do they suddenly become gentler to us the moment we are out of the body and if so, why? If God s goodness is inconsistent with hurting us, then either God is not good or there is no God: for the only life we know He hurts us beyond our worst fears and beyond all we can imagine. If it is consistent with hurting us, then He may hurt us after death is unendurably as before it.”
“Sometimes the worst failures in our lives turn out to be for the best. Sometimes our path leads through darkness, but that doesn t mean we shouldn t walk it. Sometimes our path leads to loss. But that doesn t mean we ve gone astray.”
“I ve decided. The next time I cry, it ll be for someone special , and it ll definitely be tears of happiness.”
“Forse si vive una vita a metà, quando si perde la persona che si ama. Forse l’amore ti entra dentro così a fondo da diventare parte di te, non meno di una gamba o di un braccio o di un organo. Forse persino di più, perché diventa parte della tua anima, e quando una parte della tua anima muore non puoi asportarla, toglierla o strapparla via, se ne resta semplicemente lì, dove tu non puoi fare a meno di vederla.”
“There is no loss in life.”
“The only loss is the love did not express.”
“This is probably going to be one wound that can never be healed.”
“I m going to move on, while carrying these feelings with me.”
“If you lose something, do not worry.”
“La vie n est qu une longue perte de tout ce qu on aime.”
“Why did the sun rise this morning It s not natural I don t want to see the light It s not time to close the casket Or say Kaddish for my son I ve already buried two fathers With a mother to come Isn t that enough Lord who wants us To exalt and santify Him I don t want to wear the mourner s ribbon Or wake up crying every morning For God knows how long I don t want to tuck my son into the ground As if we were putting him to bed For the last time Close the prayer book I will not pretend That God brings peace upon us And upon all Israel I don t want to hear anyone Scolding me from her wheelchair Because I m crying too hard I m not worried about a heart attack Nothingness You ve already broken my heart I will not forgive you Sun of emptiness Sky of blank clouds I will not forgive you Indifferent God Until you give back my son”
“Every loss is a gain.”