“Shouldn t we at least be asking whether the transcending of venereal desire that marriage requires of a mostly or entirely heterosexual man who marries for the sake of love, friendship, and raising a family isn t more or less the same as the transcendence required of a man whose venereal desire is oriented mostly or entirely toward men but who restrains these drives, and who marries for the sake of love, friendship and raising a family? Of course, men with little venereal desire for women can t proceed towards marriage driven by such desire. For them, marriage must develop from friendship. But wouldn t it be better if all marriages developed from friendship?”
“She and Naomi had joked about the sexuality of camera apertures, that they needed to write a woman’s monograph on the symbolism and cultural relevance of the mechanics of image-making as it related to sex, so that, for example, stopping down the fixed 35mm lens’s diaphragm – elegantly composed of nine shutter-leaf blades – to a tight f/16 would be the equivalent of a Kegel pelvic floor exercise.”